Of Kings, Queens and Jack Asses

The past week has been horrifying in New Delhi with major protests against the gang rape of an innocent 23 year old girl and brutal attack on her male accompanying her on a private bus during late hours. There are statistics that say that a female is raped every 20 minutes and this is something we ought to be proud of being in the world’s largest democracy when we can’t even come up with laws that can protect the female population. I can’t blame the idiots in parliament who pass stupid laws either. It was you who put them in those seats in the first place.

The recent gang rape incident will remain in the media only as long as the numbers are good on the ratings and soon later the issue will die out like a candle in a storm and never be heard of again.
First and foremost I want to set some thinking standards before going further. When one hears of news that a female was raped in some ‘metropolitan city’ during ‘late hours’, the first thing that comes to the mind is that she might have been a whore or a slut who was hanging around in a bar or club that night and she deserves it. This is where most of us are wrong. Rape is a crime, it is a theft at a larger level where a person is literally robbed and stripped of their dignity and honor. Money robbed can be replaced but not their dignity and honor.

Now coming to the next level, there is no difference between a rape in a city and a small town. A rape is a God damn rape. Any female might fall prey to this evil act of selfishness. Yes, you read 'selfishness' alright. Rape is an act of selfishness where one puts his mental, physical and emotional needs of the moment above the basic rights of the victim.
Now the third level comes in. Are men and women equal? I would disagree with most of you that they are not equal and never can be. It is a stupid question where you are asking yourself which one of your eyes is weaker so that you can pluck it out. Men are more about physicality while the women are more about subtle. It is here where men think that ‘subtle’ means ‘weak’. Women are not weak. Men just don’t see their value until men feel their absence. I used to complain about my mom's food when I was young. But when I joined college I started missing her homemade recipes. Women have a very wonderful gift call persuasion and men simply cannot live without their love. Men and women are not equal but it is these imperfections that bond them well like pieces of a puzzle.

Men consider themselves strong but are we?  Screw our physical strength. If we were strong by will wouldn’t it be easy to control Mr. Hyde in us? Some of us don’t have the mental will to control one’s sexual urges and yet we call ourselves the dominant and stronger sex? We men should be ashamed of this.

Now coming to the ladies, you are really angels on earth. Truly you make our lives colorful and vibrant. It would be unfair on my part to quote that men see women as toys. There are many good men out there who outnumber the bad ones. The following statements might anger some of you, but I’m just being practical. It is in no offense that I write them.
 This modern age has guaranteed women of social freedom. No one’s complaining of the change that you are bringing. Ladies, you are beautiful, but your dignity is more beautiful than the beauty of the skin. And when fragile lines are crossed letting go of your dignity, there are a lot of Mr. Hydes out there ready to take on the opportunity to commit inhuman acts. If most women agree to the above caption above then my question is are you like the women there who covers up almost her whole self? At this point, someone just said that it’s none of men’s business to tell you what to do. Right and fine, it is none of my business. But if you think you can handle this big world on your own then fine go ahead after promising that you would never come back running to ‘men’ like your dad, brothers, boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, friends who are guys and other men when some shit happens. It happened because this time you were selfish. You put your needs above needs of those who are there to care for you, to comfort you and to love you. If you want moral responsibility on part of men then get ready to share it equally as men.Now it’s time to end this crap here. The problem is not in men’s thinking of women or the way a women dresses that lead to situations. It is actually how kids are brought up in Indian households. I’ll leave that for another post, but to put it short I would say that a girl is brought up with fear from a very tender age that the world out there is dark, bad and mean with a lot of Brutus Blutos out there. Men are not dominant and once this is understood in good sense then the fear of male dominance would fade away. Men on the other hand see women as the weaker sex. This way of thinking would change if and only if men are taught to respect the women in the family; their mothers, their sisters and their maids. Mothers and specifically fathers should teach their sons that women are an integral part of the world around them and create an inspiration in their kids that they don’t see women as a weaker sex. The problem is that there are good men who don't want to get involved to stand up and ask against the social system just because we don't have the need to. Only when there is an involvement of men and a joint effort with women to come across their differences can the thinking of a common household family change the way society sees women.

The recent events in New Delhi are an eye opener to more discussions towards stronger laws. If you need proper laws firstly vote, secondly vote for the right one. A lot of  posts on social media especially Facebook about the recent incident portray men to be the root cause for such crimes against women. But are all men bad? I'm sure there are a majority of good men out there. Woman, your way of dressing is no invitation for me to rape you. The statement is incomplete without this; and it is not a way to show that you are free either. Instead of focusing the blames on the male population, what needs to be blamed is the laws. We need better laws that make sure that wrong men get punished for their wrongs. The laws should make men think twice before acting inappropriately with any women and it should also ensure that women are protected of their rights; right to equality and freedom.
A friend of mine posted on her blog that if every family kept their sons at home every night it would be safer for women during nights. Agreed, that men are the root of most social problems. But you can’t blame all men for that. All men are not rapists and not all women are sluts. I have a better idea. Every family should teach their sons to respect women and teach their daughters to uphold the respect they get. Now both share equal responsibility for co-existing with equal rights.

As for the rape victim 'Damini' or 'Nirbhaya' as the media calls her, hope your death brings in a revolution into making stronger and stringent laws for all crimes against women. May your soul rest in peace. God bless you.
A quote I came across on the web,

Keenan Santos and Reuben Fernandes from Mumbai were murdered in October 2011 while trying to protect their girlfriends from eve teasers. They were slaughtered as the whole crowd stood watching. It's not just a women's problem at hand here. The public is scared to standup when they were attacked. The very laws meant to protect citizens finally became the reasons why two lives were lot simply because the laws were weak. Keenan's girlfriend Priyanka is still in love with him. There are good men out there and it would be totally unfair if woman brand men as a whole as Male Chauvinist Pigs or shortly as MCP.

“A man who treats his woman like a Princess is proof that he has been born and brought up in the arms of a Queen”

-Anonymous